Looking For The Good:

How do you look at the hurt in your past, and realize the hope for your future?

This is rather deep {and long} for a blog post, let alone my first one…Dusten and I are house hunting as I’m sure most of you know. We have been seriously looking for almost 6 months with no avail. It’s getting frustrating. We actually put an offer in on a house and the owner said no. The hardest part for me, being an interior designer, is walking in and immediately “designing” the house to my taste and then not getting that house. We have a “beginners” budget and expensive taste! But, I am choosing to walk by faith and not by sight.

At church this morning the pastor read Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I was freshly reminded that God knows my steps and I don’t walk this alone!

In the midst of house hunting, the Mooresville area has consistently shown up on our searches as somewhere we can afford that’s not too far from the office.  {yes we are centering this search around the office because that’s the only constant in our lives right now – that my friends is another story on another day}

Mooresville. {Awful. Hated. Adorable. Quaint. Quirky.} Mooresville. How I love your old houses. How I love your adorable town. How I hate the memories you hold. I hate everything to do with downtown Mooresville. I want nothing to do with it, yet it seems to be where we can afford to live.

Afford. But not want. You see…there’s this thing. This dark hole surrounding Mooresville. A blip in my past.

Blip? Is it really a blip? Does God design “blips”? My favorite quote currently is by C. S. Lewis.

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny”

You see, that hardship, that {hopefully} once in a lifetime experience, now is a part of me. It’s memories are a part of my life.

And sometimes, life throws you a curve ball. Instead of being able to look at the happy memories, you see the bad. You see the pain. You see the hurt. Today I saw the hurt and pain of a closed church. The hurt of a pastor who was not honest. The pain in a church community, that’s supposed to be safe, torn asunder.

Will that hurt. Pain. Be used for good? Yes! God promises that He will use it for good! He promises that He was there, walked it with us, knows our pain, and still desires to comfort us.

Today. I will choose to never forget those 18 months. I will always remember showing up early and putting out name tags for the kids. I will always remember working for the church. I will remember the college group meetings. Those are the happy memories. Those are the memories worth remembering.

Today I am thankful for parents who support Dusten and me on this road called life. Today I am thankful for a husband that cares for me far more than I deserve! Today I am thankful for God’s light to lead us on this ever winding path of life. Today, I think, is a turning point.

As I look ahead, I don’t know yet if I will ever be able to actually live in Downtown Mooresville, or if I ever want to walk down that path every day. But I know this: that God my Father will never leave me nor forsake me.

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We Got Hitched!!!!

On July 21st, 2012 at 4:00pm we were married and now begin the exciting adventure of our lives together.

We would like to say thank you so very much to everyone involved in making that day possible and for celebrating with us.

Here are a few of the initial pictures from the preview shots. There will be many more to come!!!


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About Us

Our story begins back in 2009. We met while attending Mission28, our church’a college ministry on the campus of UNC Charlotte. We met at the annual pancake dinner. We spent time that night playing games and hanging with our friends.

Over the next few months we just began to get to know each other until Rekindle, the M28 spring break retreat to Laguna Beach Florida. On this trip we really began to get to know each other, between swing dancing to different games and just hanging out, we just began to develop an interest in each other.

I kind of became Recah’s ‘tech guy.’ Any time that she had a computer issue or question. I was the person she called to help her out. I was am IT Technician at the time. We continued to hang out and text over the summer.

We were both really big fans of Boundless. I have been a subscriber to the podcast for a few years, and Recah was a reader of the magazine. Many of the principles that were taught and demonstrated were what gave our friendship a great start.

Our friendship took off from there. Once over the next summer there was a lunch where Recah invited our group of friends over to her house. I walked up and met her parents on the front porch. “Hi I’m Dusten,” I said. “Oh so you’re Dusten! We have heard about you” her mom said. I blushed pretty quickly. At this point I was not sure that she was interested in me at all, so this was a hint….

A little while later I organized a backpacking trip for our group of friends. Then we discovered that some of the girls wanted to come too, so we asked a few of the Dads to come along too. We went on the trip over the weekend, while hiking she and had many conversations and really hit it off.

We started courting two weeks later after we sat down and talked through it. What it would look like and laid out the expectations for how things were going to unfold. Little did we really know that this would blossom into the friendship that we have today.

I had been planning for over a year before our relationship to attend the Focus Leadership Institute. It was something that I wanted to do for a long time and God was opening up the doors for me to go. It was not easy at all to leave my home state to a place where I knew nobody and had no idea what would happen afterwards.

We started our relationship exactly six weeks before I was set to leave for FLI. That made for a very short time period. We spent every moment together that we could. It was a very special time. The day came and I had to hug her Goodbye and travel half way across the country. That was truly the hardest thing that I ever had to do.

Focus Leadership Institute is an amazing program. It really changed my life. I learned so much while I was there. Much of what I learned was from the material in class, but I also had to learn how to communicate effectively with Recah from a long distance. Having to be apart for a semester taught us so very much. We grew in ways that would not have been possibly had been together. I learned a lot about relationships, how to lead a family, and so very much more. One of the most important lessons that I learned while at FLI was discovering who I am in Christ and how to live that out.

We communicated over phone calls, Skype, and even wrote letters back and forth. We had to learn how to communicate better having the distance. It helped us to grow in ways that would have not been possible otherwise that soon in the relationship.

I came home for Thanksgiving for a few days. We spent a large amount of those days together. On the trip to see my family, I told her for the first time that I loved her. That will be a memory that we will hold on to for a long time.

I had to leave to go back to Colorado Springs to finish out my semester. Having to leave was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.

After completing the semester I came back to Charlotte and saw God work in my life when he provided me with work. I was looking for a full time job and picked up a few contract jobs until I could find a full time job. this quickly turned into my own business as a Internet Marketing Consultant for many of the small businesses in the Lake Norman area.

Recah and I both work in the same office. I have rented desk space in her dad’s office.

We got engaged on December 21st 2011 and the video for that can be found here on this site.

There will be more information to come to this page in the future but that is all that we have for now. Check back later for more information. This will be our personal blog for after the wedding.

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Visit to the Church

We went to see the church again and here are some of the pics!

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Our Location!

We now have a date and a Location!!!

When: July 21, 2012

Where: Coddle Creek Presbyterian Church in Davidson, NC

Why we chose this location?

We both love the Davidson community and want to be married in the area. This church is very beautiful and has a lot of history and character and we both just love it.

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Start the Journey

Life is a Journey from Dusten Harward on Vimeo.

I send Recah on a scavenger hunt to visit all of the significant places around town. Here is the video record of her stops and the wonderful surprise that awaited her at the end of the hunt. (If this is loading too slow you can turn off the HD video)

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We Are Engaged!!!!

Welcome to our home page! Eventually we will have more content. For now we are just excited!!!!


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